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Feelin’ Loved Lately

6 Feb

Trivia Crack helps me feel loved

Trivia Crack helps me feel loved

Let me preface this by saying if you’re one of those families with teenagers who still hug and kiss you, tell you everything about their day, and openly admit to wanting to spend time with you – the following list probably won’t make sense to you.

What I’m about to share is a simple list of moments, realizations and events that make me think I may still possibly have a special place in the hearts of my beasts. So here goes…  And keep in mind, the following are not regular occurrences, hence the reason they make me feel special.

Things my beasts do that make me feel loved:

  1. Respond to my text
  2. Put a napkin over their food so it doesn’t splatter all over the microwave
  3. Bring in the trashcan or recycle bin without being asked
  4. Takes out the trashcan or recycle bin without being asked
  5. Puts the toilet seat down (OK, this is rare to basically never, but a girl can dream)
  6. Shares a story from their day that is unsolicited
  7. Shares a story from their day that is solicited
  8. Responds to a question with more than a grunt
  9. Likes a pic I post on Instagram that doesn’t have his dog or self in it
  10. Invites me to load Trivia Crack so we can play against each other
  11. Opens a door for me (any door, anytime, any place – even if accidentally)
  12. Clears his place at dinner table without being asked (actually this is one thing they do well)
  13. Watches a TV show or movie with me (even if it’s about zombies, it’s still time together)
  14. Asks for help with anything

Wow.  It feels good just to type this. If you’re tempted to feel sorry for me or find me pathetic — don’t!!  Remember about 18 months ago I outsourced my emotional fulfillment and need to nurture by getting two puppies.  So if I’m having an off day, waiting for a response to my texts while scrubbing out the microwave next to an overflowing trashcan, chances are I’ve got two baby puppies at my feet waiting for me to make them feel loved too.

Leviticus 26:11-12 — I will put my dwelling place among you, and I will not abhor you.  I will walk among you and be your God, and you will be my people.

Parenting Tip:  It may not be a picture-perfect relationship. We just have to be present and available when they’re looking for us.

Virtual Communication

6 Aug

A real conversation earlier this week with my younger beast.

Baby Beast:  “Oh Mom, by the way, I’m almost out of minutes on my phone.”

Me:  “Okay, remind me later this week if I don’t look into it tomorrow.”

Baby Beast:  “But, I need to figure out with Andrew and Jack what time to meet tomorrow.”

Me:  “What does that have to do with your phone? You’re going to see them tonight.”

Baby Beast:  “I was going to text them and see what time they could meet, but I’m almost out of minutes.”

Me:  “Can’t you just ask them in a few minutes when you see them at practice?”

Baby Beast:  “I’ll try to – it’s just easier to text them.”

I’ve seen it grow and fester more and more as my beasts have entered adolescence, and specifically as they’ve expanded their existence into the electronic realm.  The need for face-to-face communication is no longer a need for today’s generation — it’s actually seen as a nuisance.

When my eldest was putting off his driver’s ed classes, I was perplexed at how a teenage boy wouldn’t rush to get his license.  Then I realized, he communicates with his friends easily enough without having to leave home.  Virtual communication is their every day.  What’s the rush to watch a bunch of boring videos about how to drive, when he can FaceTime, tweet, text, converse on Reddit or talk to friends real-time while playing a Steam video game with them?

No reason to change out of your PJs or abandon a refrigerator full of free food just to get out of the house when you friends are with you virtually all the time.  Facebook, Instagram, Vine, Snapchat, Ask.fm and who knows what else is new that I haven’t yet heard of.  With all these tools at their disposal, they know what their friends are up to virtually all the time!

I find myself asking my beasts every so often to make a point to be present when they’re at home.   It’s simply a request to engage verbally with each other, acknowledge the other people who are present when they walk through a room, and make sure to come up for air (a.k.a. get your face out of the screen.)

Signature

Signature 2Perhaps this is one reason why our school district has Speech as a required course for graduation.  Now, if they could maybe do just a little more to reinforce the need to know cursive.  I know a lot of signatures have become electronic, but for now these still require the real thing: endorsing checks, signing contracts, applications, driver’s license.   I mean seriously, is this how their signatures will look forever?

Parenting Tip:  Give kids every opportunity to practice real-life communication: order their own meals, check in for appointments, reorder prescriptions, etc.  It prepares both of you to believe your beast really can survive without you.

[Deut. 32:10b-11  He threw his arms around him, lavished attention on him,
        guarding him as the apple of his eye.
    He was like an eagle hovering over its nest,
        overshadowing its young,
    Then spreading its wings, lifting them into the air,
        teaching them to fly.]

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