We didn’t know what was going on. We knew our teenager had become moody and did many stereotypical things that you’d expect from a teenager. And clearly there are new habits he’s formed that have surprised me. But the last couple of weeks took us down an entirely different path, and we started to become a little desperate.
- I had become used to the slow pace, but lately it was lethargy.
- I was used to him wanting privacy, but it had become isolation.
- There was a trend of slacking on homework, but it suddenly became refusal.
- I knew he was dealing with allergies, then one day he said everything was hurting.
- I was used to him acting quirky, but this week it was erratic and sometimes irrational behavior.
We seriously discussed whether he might be tottering into a state of depression. He just didn’t show any signs of a severe illness – no clear ones, at least. One headache, one day. Random stomach ache that went away. Scratchy throat, but not sore. He said he didn’t have fever, and I never checked. But, it was the change in personality, the deep and sudden dive that made us wonder. All the standard parenting tips didn’t seem to help shape his attitude. You know, the usual: “Give them space. Don’t berate them about every chore. Don’t bail them out when they make mistakes. Don’t ask too many questions. Let them give input on family decisions. Praise and encourage them.” Blah, blah, blah. Regardless of my feeble attempts, our beast was becoming more and more like a tortured zombie.
We decided to take him to the doctor to go ahead and rule out anything medical first. They did blood work, and that was quite a dramatic spektical. That one needle stick caused my tough, strong-willed beast to forget any manhood he had recently claimed — refusing to bend his arm or lift anything with it for the next 24 hours. It was funny to see him try to function like he had a broomstick on his right shoulder. I didn’t dare make any comments about that to him.
Today when the nurse called to tell us it was mono, we were really shocked. Didn’t that mean quarantines, hospital stays or boxing them up in bubble wrap away from the world? Apparently not. Not only could he continue going to school, the doctor cleared him to run in his track meet today. Totally doesn’t make sense. But, we gave him the choice and he wanted to run. He ran, finished last and was ready to come home. Thankfully he has Good Friday off so he can rest this weekend. I’ll try to baby him as much as he’ll let me and make sure he rests.
During a quiet, pensive moment at lunch, my husband commented out of the blue, “I am so glad it is just mono.” I agreed and told him about my text to my mom earlier that read, “Praise God. He just has mono.” We really didn’t know what was going on in that little head of his based on the way he’d been acting. But knowing he is actually sick, we are frankly a little relieved and thankful it isn’t as bad as we were starting to imagine.
Parenting Tip: If you think they might be depressed, have them checked for mono. Or more realistically, when in doubt take their temperature.
[1 Cor 10:13 No test or temptation that comes your way is beyond the course of what others have had to face. All you need to remember is that God will never let you down; he’ll never let you be pushed past your limit; he’ll always be there to help you come through it.]
Recent Comments About the Beast Blog